I was reading through books recently, browsed several references, some gave me idea and some stimulated my mind to think.
Today, I just want to tell you, yes, if you are reading this, it's not an accident! You are meant to read this!
"Whatever you do today, just make sure it's towards living your life and not copying someone else's."
The law of association would suggest that you have the right to associate and that there is power in association, you attract the same energy with whom or those you associate yourself with. That is the reason why you somehow feel satisfied after a conversation with someone you've shared your life with. Shared because he/she can relate to your situation and you can relate to his or her situation.
We have under this influence that we neglect to see how it affects us. And for some reason you don't know, you just want to be with that person or those persons again. Some people would label it with the phrase, "I belong!". We appreciate sympathy, we appreciate people who seem to have felt what we are feeling. And tell those who do not as rude, harsh or don't care. Truth is, you want them to suffer like you!
Here's my theory, here in our locality we have this expression "pandamay".
Literally translated though, that word means, you pull people down when you're down. If you're in jail, they have to be in jail too. If you are suffering from pain, people should also feel pain. "Damay" have been cloaked as sympathy or empathy or whatever, but yes, it's basically pulling down people's energy. And people tend to enjoy such association.
One would argue and say, "so, are you suggesting we don't have to care and sympathize?" Absolutely, no! What I am telling you right now is, if someone is 'down' don't go 'down' yourself, be the light! If someone complains, try to suggest reasons why such happened to enlighten. As my friend told me "be the better, brighter, or even the best person" than the other.
I understand this is not an easy task, this is not easy to do, but just like any hard thing to do, it starts with developing it to be a habit. If it becomes a habit, it naturally comes out, when the situations call.
This is all for now, and yeah remember to live your own life, God did not intend to make you a clone of someone else!
You have all the right to be happy! Spread the smile of your heart!