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I am going to share to you here an excerpt of the book "Men's Relational Toolbox" by Gary, Greg and Micheal Smalley. I hope you get something from this, and improve somehow your relationship with your wife. 🙂

Men and women approach problems with similar goals but different considerations. While men and women can solve problems equally well, their approach and their process are often quite different. For most women, sharing and discussing a problem presents an opportunity to explore, deepen, or strengthen relationships. Women are usually more concerned about how problems are solved than if they are solved. The process of solving a problem can strengthen or weaken a relationship.


Most men are les concerned about relationships when solving a problem. For most men, solving a problem presents an opportunity to demonstrate their competence, their strength of resolve, and their commitment to a relationship. How the problem is solved is not nearly as important as solving it effectively and in the best possible manner. Men have a tendency to dominate and to assume authority in a problem-solving process. They are not focused on the quality of relationships while solving problems.

Some of the more important differences can be illustrated by observing groups of teenage boys and groups of teenage girls attempting to find their way out of a maze. Boys generally establish a hierarchy, choosing a leader who emerges on his own or through demonstrations of ability and power. Boys explore the maze using scouts while remaining in distant proximity to each other. Groups of girls tend to explore the maze together as a group without establishing a clear or dominant leader. Relationships tend to be coequal. Girls tend to discuss the problem and apply "collective intelligence" to the task of discovering a way out.

What is your style of solving problems? Are you the kind of guy who excels at looking a problem or a puzzle and quickly and efficiently coming up with a solution? Can you look at a malfunction in your car or around the house and see in moments what needs to be done? If so, you are probably adept at using the problem-solving tool.

We guys tend to be good at problem solving. It's part of who we are, part of how God designed us. Here is a good example of a man who used the problem-solving tool with great skill.

"I didn't know what to do," he explained to us.

But in an effort to truly honor his wife, Bob chose to become a new man. The problem was, he did it by using his problem-solving tool. Now, the use of his tool can be a good thing. But in this case, mere problem solving was too simple for the tasks his wife expected him to do. This became particularly evident once when Betty asked him to clean the downstairs bathroom.

"Sure honey," Bob told her. He grabbed his problem-solving tool and headed to the bathroom, armed with a bucket, sponges, sprays and powders.

What we saw came as a complete surprise: The bathroom was already clean. Bob looked around to make sure he was right. There was no dirt in the sink, none in the toilet, and none on the floors. He shook his head in confusion and tucked his problem-solving tool back in his toolbox. If the bathroom was already clean, then the problem was solved. He returned the cleaning supplies to the laundry room and then reported to Betty.

"It's clean," he said. Then he smiled for good measure.

"What?" Betty's eyebrows knitted into two tense, crooked lines. "That's impossible!"

She led the way as the two of them returned to the bathroom. Betty walked through the door, did a single glance about the room, and put her hands on her hips. What do you mean, "it's clean"? She grimaced at the sink. "It's filthy."

Bob followed Betty's gaze and squinted. For the life of him he couldn't see any dirt. From Betty's tone of voice, he'd have expected to see whole colonies of mold and bacteria with germs the size of house pets. 

"It looks clean to me." Bob shrugged.

At that, Betty's expression fell. You see, on some level Betty thought that cleaning the bathroom would be - at least partially - an emotional experience. She wanted Bob to appreciate the level of cleaning she did on a regular basis. Then she wanted him to duplicate that type of cleaning. But Bob was seeing the situation only as a problem to be solved, and since the bathroom looked clean, there was no longer a problem.

Betty rolled her eyes and said, "If you cared about me, Bob, you'd make an effort."

Make an effort? Bob was baffled. "It doesn't need cleaning. How can that mean I don't care about you?"

The disagreement became an argument that repeated itself every weekend for a month.

Since then, Bob has learned to use a few of the relational tools in addition to his problem-solving one. Now he simply attacks the room as if it dd have germs the size of house pets, and even though he sees no difference in the before and after pictures, Betty is thrilled. This way Bob is still able to use his problem-solving tool, but he's also learned to honor Betty and to compromise on what exactly defines clean in their household.

What we say is important. The Bible states that out of the abundance of the heart the mount speaks. (Matthew 12:34). We need to change our vocabulary; we need to speak words of life and light. Our talk should always line up with the Word of God.
Christians should be known as those who speak positively - those who speak the Word of God into situations, those who speak forth words of life. When we speak wrongly, it diminishes our ability to see and hear the will of God.
We should not be like the man who joined a monastery in which the monks were allowed to speak only two words every seven years. After the first seven years had passed, the new initiate met with the abbot, who asked him, "Well, what are your two words?"
"Food's bad," replied the man, who then went back to his silence. 
Seven years later the clergyman askd, "What are your two words now?"
"Bed's hard," the man responded.
Seven years later - twenty-one years after his initial entry into the monastery - the man met with the abbot for the third and final time. "And what are your two words this time?" the abbot asked.
"I quit."
"Well, I'm not surprised," the cleric answered disgustedly. 
"All you've done since you got here is complain!"
Don't be like that man; don't be known as a person whose only words are negative.
If you are a member of the "murmuring grapevine," you need to resign. In John 6:43 our Lord instructed His disciples, "Murmur not among yourselves." In Philippians 2:14-15 the Apostle Paul exhorted the believers of his day:

Do all things without murmurings and disputings: That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world.

Contrary to what you may have heard, talk is not cheap. Talk is expensive! Our words are powerful. What we say affects what we get from others and what others get from us.
(From John L. Mason's "An Enemy Called Average")
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All our lives, we have trained our eyes to see what is bad. From an early age, we have been training ourselves incorrectly. We get up and read the morning newspaper over breakfast, getting our minimum daily requirement of bad news. On the way to work, we stop by a newsstand and buy the latest issue of U.S. Bad News and World Report, so we can find out what's wrong with the world. After work we rush home and watch the "CBS Evening Bad News," then stay up lat to watch the day's worst events all over again on the local 10 o'clock bad news. We then lay down for a restless night's sleep with bad dreams, only to get up with a bad attitude so we can have another bad day at work - just as we have done every day for years!
We have to retrain our eyes. The reason is this: Whatever we're looking for is what we will see. That's how God made us. If we are looking for something good, we will see what is good. If we're always looking for what's wrong with people, what will we see everywhere we turn? Everything that's wrong.
A man in 1984 moved to a quiet little town called Hilo on the southermost island in Hawaii. One day his wife came home and announced, "Honey, I know what I want!"
"What?" he asked.
"I want  a Mazda MPV van. Buy me one!" she pleaded.
"Uh-uh," he grunted.
She said, "But it's a beautiful van!"
He had never seen a Mazda van. "Mazda doesn't make vans. I've never seen one." he said.
She said, "Oh, yes! They make them. They're beautiful!"
"Honey, Mazda doesn't make vans." he said
She said, "Yes they do! Jump in the car!"
They climbed into the car trekked into town. Within 15 minutes, a Mazda van pulled through an intersection they were approaching. His wife exclaimed, "There's one!"
He said, "That's nice! I didn't realize Mazda made vans."
Withing 15 minutes, another one came by. She said, "There's another one! And that's the color I want! If you love me. . ."
Within the hour, they have seen six Mazda vans! He hadn't even known there was such a vehicle, but suddenly they were everywhere! Isn't that how it always work? When you're thinking of purchasing a certain car, you notice it everywhere. Everyone's driving your car!
Likewise, if we look for the best in other people, then we will see the most beautiful people in the world everywhere we turn. 
What you are looking for, you will begin to see.

According to Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich" book, if there are important factors of a leadership, there are also major causes of failure of a leader, and he enumerated the causes below:
See if you fit into it, or someone you know. . .

  1. Inability to organize details. Efficient leadership calls for ability to organize and to master details. No genuine leader is ever "too busy" to do anything which may be required of him in his capacity as leader. When a man, whether he is a leader or follower, admits that he is "too busy" to change his plans, or to give attention to any emergency, he admits his inefficiency. The successful leader must be the master of all details connected with his position. That means, of course, that he must acquire the habit of relegating details to capable lieutenants.
  2. Unwillingness to render humble service. Truly great leaders are willing, when occasion demands, to perform any sort of labor which they would ask another to perform. "The greatest among ye shall be the servant of all" is a truth which all able leaders observe and respect.
  3. Expectation of pay for what they "know" instead of what they do with that which they know. The world does not pay men for that which they "know". It pays them for what they do, or induce others to do.
  4. Fear of competition from followers. The leader who fears that one of his followers may take his position is practically sure to realize that fear sooner or later. The able leader trains understudies to whom he may delegate, at will, any of the details of his position. Only in this way may a leader multiply himself and prepare himself to be at many places, and give attention to many things at one time. It is an eternal truth that men receive more pay for their ability to get others to perform, than they could possibly earn by their own efforts. An efficient leader may, through his knowledge of his job and the magnetism of his personality, greatly increase the efficiency of others, and induce them to render more service than they could render without his aid.
  5. Lack of imagination. Without imagination, the leader is incapable of meeting emergencies, and of creating plans by which to guide his followers efficiently.
  6. Selfishness. The leader who claims all the honor for the work of his followers is sure to be met by resentment. The really great leader claims none of the honors. He is contented to see the honors, when there are any, go to his followers, because he knows that most men will work harder for commendation and recognition than they will for money alone.
  7. Intemperance. Followers do not respect an intemperate leader. Moreover, intemperance in any of its various forms, destroys the endurance and the vitality of all who indulge in it.
  8. Disloyalty. Perhaps this should have come at the head of the list. The leader who is not loyal to his trust, and to his associates, those above him, and those below him, cannot long maintain his leadership. Disloyalty marks one as being less than the dust of the earth, and brings down on one's head the contempt he deserves. Lack of loyalty is one of the major causes of failure in every walk of life.
  9. Emphasis of the "authority" of leadership. The efficient leader leads by encouraging, and not by trying to instill fear in the hearts of his followers. The leader who tries to impress his followers with his "authority" comes within the category of leadership through force. If a leader is a real leader, he will have no need to advertise that fact except by his conduct - his sympathy, understanding, fairness, and a demonstration that he knows his job.
  10. Emphasis of title. The competent leader requires no "title" to give him the respect of his followers. The man who makes too much over his title generally has little else to emphasize. The doors to the office of the real leader are open to all who wish to enter, and his working quarters are free from formality and ostentation.
These are among the more common of the causes of failure in leadership. Any one of these faults is sufficient to induce failure. Study the list carefully if you aspire to leadership and make sure that you are free of these faults.

Today, I will be sharing to you the Major Attributes of Leadership according to Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich" the following are important factors of leadership.

  1. Unwavering courage based upon knowledge of self, and of one's occupation. No follower wishes to be dominated by a leader who lacks self-confidence and courage. No intelligent leader who lacks self-confidence and courage. No intelligent follower will be dominated by such a leader very long.
  2. Self-control. The man who cannot control himself can never control others. Self-control sets a mighty example for one's followers, which the more intelligent will emulate.
  3. A keen sense of justice. Without a sense of fairness and justice, no leader can command and retain the respect of his followers.
  4. Definiteness of decision. The man who wavers in his decisions, show that he is not sure of himself, cannot lead others successfully.
  5. Definiteness of plans. The successful leader must plan his work, and work his plan. A leader who moves by guesswork, without practical, definite plans, is comparable to a ship without a rudder. Sooner or later he will land on the rocks.
  6. The habit of doing more than paid for: One of the penalties of leadership is the necessity of willingness, upon the part of the leader, to do more than he requires of his followers.
  7. A pleasing personality. No slovenly, careless person can become a successful leader. Leadership calls for respect. Followers will not respect a leader who does not grade high on all of the factors of pleasing personality.
  8. Sympathy and understanding. The successful leader must be in sympathy with his followers. Moreover, he must understand them and their problems.
  9. Mastery of detail. Successful leadership calls for mastery of the details of the leader's position.
  10. Willingness to assume full responsibility. The successful leader must be willing to assume responsibility for the mistakes and shortcomings of his followers. If he tries to shift this responsibility, he will not remain the leader. If one of his followers makes a mistake, and shows himself incompetent, the leader must consider it is he who failed.
  11. Cooperation. The successful leader must understand and apply the principle of cooperative effort and be able to induce his followers to do the same. Leadership calls for power, and power calls for cooperation.

In the beginning, God created the world with an infinite amount of diversity. Consider the many different animals, insects, plants and minerals on this planet. Even after so many centuries, we're still making discoveries about God's creation. Then add to that the billions of people who have lived over the course of time - each unique and different from one another.
God pulled out all the stops! He used the big box of Crayolas to create the world with endless diversity. No repetition. No duplicates. God made everyone and everything unique.
All too often, though, we fail to celebrate the blessing of diversity. Differences challenge us. So, we cluster ourselves in social (and religious) circles of sameness.
All of us feel much more at ease when we cloister around people just like us. But how much clearer would people see God's love if we boldly broke out of our clusters and crossed our uncomfortable boundary lines in order to love people not like us?
All of us have been more than firsthand witnesses of God's love; we've been recipients of His mercy - receiving undeserved.loving-kindness and saving grace. "While we were still sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8). He loves us despite ourselves.
Could we not do likewise?
God may have placed a person in your life who isn't anything like you. In fact, you may not even like that person. But God's desire for you transcend your craving for ease or personal pleasure. He may want this man or woman to experience an undeniable truth - we are all people to love, even when we act unlovely and behave in unlovable ways. You may be the person's first-ever taste of unconditional love.
You may feel like saying, "I can't. I'm not capable. I need easier challenges."
I know how you feel.
A former boss once lied about me when I was in my late teens. He defamed my character and, I thought, I ruined my future. However, God led me to His Word, requiring me not t return evil, but to love this guy and pray for him. Despite the challenge, I obeyed God. And as a result, God unleashed a new sense of freedom and effectiveness He's used to impact lives over many years. But it was unbelievably tough love assignment.
Without hesitation, God issues love assignments that stretch us. He gave us His Son a big one, didn't He?

(From Dwight Robertson's "You are God's Plan A [and there's no plan b]")

A few people have said to me, "I understand what you're saying about looking for what's right. But you can't deny that there are problems! There will always be problems. How do you deal with them practically?"
Sure, there will be problems, and each problem needs to be addressed. You need to meet them head on and courageously deal with them in a way that honors God and builds biblical character. However, here's a secret that has helped me over the years: When you speak of problems, always speak of them as changing.
Someone says, "You have a problem." Your response should be, "Yes, I do, but it's changing!" Someone else says, "Well, you've got financial problems." Your answer? "Yes, but that's changing!" When someone says to you, "Hey, you have a bad marriage." You say, "Yeah, but it's changing!" When someone says, "You've got bad breath." you can reply, "Yeah but it's changing!"
When you speak of problems as changing, you see a hopeful light at the end of the darkened tunnel. This is a positive indicator that you are growing.
However, if someone says, "You've got financial problems," and you say, "Man, do I ever have financial problems! I have always had financial problems, and I will probably always have financial problems until Jesus comes," this attitude acts as a magnet, inviting depression and cynicism. It shuts down your creative problem-solving ability and causes you to freeze up, leaving you perpetually in this state of financial need.
You will see problems everywhere, but don't allow your eyes to remain focused on them. Look for answers and that's what you will see. Develop a new perspective - a fresh view of your problems. Solve them, don't dwell on them. You'll be tempted to remain in slough of despair. It feels good, sometimes, to be pitied, and many of us look for reasons to remain in our unhappy circumstances. But don't do it. 
Failure is not when you get knocked down. Failure is when you refuse to get back up. Don't hang around the swamps of despair. They will only skew your attitude and impede your resilience. Learn to bounce back quickly.
Someone once said to me, "When you go through hell, don't stop to take pictures."
I agree!

Fear is a poor chisel for carving out tomorrow. Today, if you are viewing your future from a position of fear or worry, I want to let you know that view is not accurate or correct. Instead, view your future from a position of faith. That's the truth. Worry is simply the triumph of fear over faith.
There is a story about a woman crying profusely and standing on a street corner. A man came up to her and asked why she was weeping. The lady shook her head and replied: "I was just thinking that maybe someday I would get married. We would later have a beautiful baby girl. then one day this child and I would go for a walk along this street, and my darling daughter would run into the street, get hit by a car, and die."
It sounds like a pretty ridiculous situation - weeping because of something that will probably never happen. Yet we act this way when we worry. We blow a situation out of proportion that might not ever come to pass.
An old Swedish proverb says: "Worry gives a small thing a big shadow." Worry is simply the misuse of the creative imagination that God has placed within each of us. When fear rises in our minds, we should learn to expect the opposite in our lives. The opposite of fear is faith.
The worry is derived from an Anglo-Saxon term meaning to strangle or to choke off. There is no question that worry and fear do choke off the creative flow from God. The less you worry, the more ideas, insight, and revelation you will have.
Things are seldom as they seem. "Skim milk masquerades as cream," said W.S. Gilbert. As we dwell on and worry about matters beyond our control, a negative effect begins to set in. Too much analysis always leads to paralysis. Worry is a route that leads from somewhere to nowhere. Never let it direct your life.
In Psalm 55:22 the Bible says, "Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: He shall never suffer the righteous to be moved." Never respond out of fear, and never fear to respond. Action attacks fear; inaction reinforces it.
Don't worry and don't fear. Instead, take your fear and worry to the Lord, "casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you." (1 Peter 5:7)
(From John L. Mason's "An Enemy Called Average")

We will always face storms in life, but remember: Never allow an outside storm to become an inside storm.
It's inside storms that sink ships.
The Bible is replete with story after story of how God's people encountered problems.

When Noah sailed the ocean blue,

He had problems the same as you.

For 40 days he drove the ark,

Before he found a place to park.

How many times have we found ourselves flooded with problems? Often, when I have been surrounded with struggles in the ministry, I have felt like the lion tamer who put an ad in the paper: "Lion tamer - wants tamer lion."
A few years ago, I took up fishing as a hobby. Friends and I would fish on the eastern shore of the Big Island of Hawaii. We would throw our lines into the ocean, and if we we're fishing at the right time and had the right bait, we would catch some good-sized fish. Nearby was a barbecue grill where we would place our trophies. We would take our day's catch, clean each one and then place each trophy on the grill. Even though these fish had spent all their lives in the salty ocean, guess what I had to sprinkle on our catch as we were cooking them? Right! I would sprinkle salt on the fish to bring out the flavor.
You would think that would be about the most unnecessary thing to do, considering that the fish had been marinating in saltwater for at least a year or two. Yet even though these fish had lived in the ocean, none of the salt got inside.
My point? If God can do that for fish, He can do that for each of us.
Each of us has been placed in the middle of a world filled with worldly perspectives and philosophies. But here's the wonder of God's design: Although we live in the midst of a "crooked and perverse generation" (Phil 2:15), none of that crooked perverseness is supposed to get inside of us!
Your attitude will either protect you or defeat you in the midst of storms. Develop your attitude well.
(From Wayne Cordeiro's "Attitudes that Attract Success!")
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The greatest decision of all time, as far as any American citizen is concerned, was reached in Philadelphia, July 4, 1776, when fifty-six men signed their names to a document which they well knew would bring freedom to all Americans, or leave every one of the fifty-six hanging a gallows!
You have heard of this famous document, but you may not have drawn from it the great lesson in personal achievement it so plainly thought.
We all remember the date of this momentous decision, but few of us realize what courage that decision required. We remember our history, as it was taught; we remember dates, and the names of the men who fought; we remember Valley Forge, and Yorktown; we remember George Washington and Lorn Cornwallis. But we little know little of the real forces back of these names, dates, and places. We know still less of that intangible power which insured us freedom long before Washington's armies reached Yorktown.
It is nothing short of tragedy that the writers of history have missed, entirely, even the slightest reference to the irresistible power which gave birth and freedom to the nation destined to set up new standards of independence for all the peoples of the earth. I say it is a tragedy, because it is the selfsame power which must be used by every individual who surmounts the difficulties of life, and forces life to pay the price asked.
Let us briefly review the events which gave birth to this power. The story begins with an incident in Boston, March 5, 1770. British soldiers were patrolling the streets, openly threatening the citizens by their presence. The colonists resented armed men marching in their midst. They began to express their resentment openly, hurling stones as well as epithets at the marching soldiers, until the commanding officer gave orders, "Fix bayonets. . .Charge!"
The battle was on. It resulted in the death and injury of many. The incident aroused such resentment that the Provincial Assembly (made up of prominent colonists) called a meeting for the purpose of taking a definite action. Two of the members of that Assembly were John Hancock and Samuel Adams. They spoke up courageously and declared that a move must be made to eject all British soldiers from Boston.
Remember this - a decision, in the minds of two men, might properly be called the beginning of the freedom which we, of the United States now enjoy.  Remember too, that the decision of these two men called for faith, and courage, because it was dangerous.
Before the Assembly adjourned, Samuel Adams was appointed to call on the governor of the province, Hutchinson, and demand the withdrawal of the British troops.
The request was granted, the troops were removed from Boston, but the incident was not closed. It had caused a situation which was destined to change the entire civilization. 
Richard Henry Lee became an important factor in this story by reason of the fact that he and Samuel Adams communicated frequently (by correspondence), sharing their fears and their hopes concerning the welfare of the people of their provinces. From this practice, Adams conceived the idea that a mutual exchange of letters between the thirteen colonies might help to bring about the coordination of effort so badly needed in connection with the solution of their problems. Two years after the clash with the soldiers in Boston (March '72), Adams presented this idea to the Assembly, in the form of a motion that a Correspondence Committee be established among the colonies, with definitely appointed correspondents in each colony, "for the purpose of friendly cooperation for the betterment of the colonies of British America."
It was the beginning of the organization of the far-flung power destined to give freedom to you and me. The Master Mind had already been organized. It consisted of Adams, Lee and Hancock.
The Committee of Correspondence was organized. The citizens of the colonies had been waging disorganized warfare against the British soldiers, through incidents similar to the Boston riot, but nothing of benefit had been accomplished. Their individual grievances had not been consolidated under one Master Mind. No group of individuals had put their hearts, minds, souls and bodies together in one definite decision to settle their difficulty with the British once and for all, until Adams, Hancock, and Lee got together. 
Meanwhile, the British were not idle. They, too, were doing some planning and "Master-Minding" on their own account, with the advantage of having back of them money and organized soldiery.
The Crown appointed Gage to supplant Hutchinson as the governor of Massachusetts. One of the new governor's first acts was to send a messenger to call on Samuel Adams, for the purpose of endeavoring to stop his opposition - by fear.
We can best understand the spirit of what happened by quoting the conversation between Col. Fenton (the messenger sent by Gage) and Adams.
Col. Fenton: "I have been authorized by Governor Gage, to assure you, Mr. Adams, that the governor has been empowered to confer upon you such benefits as would be satisfactory [endeavor to win Adams by promise of bribes], upon the condition that you engage to cease in your opposition to the measures of the government. It is the governor's advice to you, Sir, not to incur the further displeasure of His Majesty. Your conduct has been such as makes you liable to penalties of an Act of Henry VIII, by which persons can be sent to England for trial for treason, or misprision of treason, at the discretion of a governor of a province. But, by changing your political course, you will not only receive great personal advantages, but you will make your peace with the King."
Samuel Adams had the choice of two decisions. He could cease his opposition, and receive personal bribes, or he could continue, and run the risk of being hanged!
Clearly, the time had come when Adams was forced to reach instantly, a decision which could have cost his life. Adams insisted upon Col. Fenton's word of honor, that the colonel would deliver to the governor the answer exactly as Adams would give to him.
Adam's answer: "Then you may tell Governor Gage that I trust I have long since made my peace with the King of Kings. No personal consideration shall induce me to abandon the righteous cause of my country. And, tell Governor Gage it is the advice of Samuel Adams to him, no longer to insult the feelings of an exasperated people."
When Governor Gage received Adams' caustic reply, he flew into rage, and issued a proclamation which read, "I do, hereby, in His Majesty's name, offer and promise his most gracious pardon to all persons who shall forthwith lay down their arms, and return to the duties of peaceable subjects, excepting only from the benefit of such pardon, Samuel Adams and John Hancock, whose offences are too flagitious a nature to admit to any other consideration but that of condign punishment."
As one might say, in modern slang, Adams and Hancock were "on the spot!" The threat of the irate governor forced the two men to reach another decision, equally as dangerous. They hurriedly called a secret meeting of their staunchest followers. After the meeting had been called to order, Adams locked the door, placed the key in his pocket, and informed all present that it was imperative that a congress of the colonists be organized, and that no man should leave the room until the decision for such a congress had been reached. 
Great excitement followed. Some weighed the possible consequences of such radicalism. Some expressed grave doubt as to the wisdom of so definite a decision in defiance of the Crown. Locked in that room were two men immune to fear, blind to the possibility of failure; Hancock and Adams. Through the influence of their minds, the others were induced to agree that, through the Correspondence Committee, arrangements should be made for a meeting of the First Continental Congress, to be held in Philadelphia, September 5, 1774.
Remember this date. It is more important than July 4, 1776. If there had been no decision to hold a Continental Congress, there could have been no signing of the Declaration of Independence. 
Before the first meeting of the new Congress, another leader in a different section of the country, was deep in the throes of publishing a "Summary View of Rights of British America." He was Thomas Jefferson, of the Province of Virginia, whose relationship to Lord Dunmore (representative of the Crown in Virginia) was as strained as that of Hancock and Adams with their governor.
Shortly after his famous Summary Rights was published, Jefferson was informed that he was subject to prosecution for high treason against His Majesty's government. Inspired by the threat, one of Jefferson's colleagues, Patrick Henry, boldly spoke his mind, concluding his remarks with a sentence which shall remain forever a classic, "If this be treason, then make the most of it."
It was such men as these who, without power, without authority, without military strength, without money, sat in solemn consideration of the destiny of the colonies, beginning at the opening of the First Continental Congress, and continuing at intervals for two years - until on June 7, 1776, Richard Henry Lee arose, addressed the Chair, and to the startled Assembly made this motion:

"Gentlemen, I make the motion that these United Colonies are, and of right ought to be free and independent States, that they be absolved from all allegiance to the British Crown, and that all political connection between them and the state of Great Britain is, and ought to be totally dissolved." 

Lee's astounding motion was discussed fervently, and at such length that he began to lose patience. Finally, after days of argument, he again took the floor, and declared, in a clear, firm voice, "Mr. President, we have discussed this issue for days. It is the only course for us to follow. Why then, sir, do we longer delay? Why still deliberate? Let this happy day give birth to an American Republic. Let her arise, not to devastate and to conquer, but to reestablish the reign of peace, and of law."
Before his motion was finally voted upon, Lee was called back to Virginia, because of serious family illness, but before leaving, he placed his cause in the hands of his friends, Thomas Jefferson, who promised to fight until favorable action was taken. Shortly thereafter the President of the Congress (Hancock) appointed Jefferson as chairman of a committee to draw up a Declaration of Independence.
Long and hard the committee labored on a document which would mean, when accepted by the Congress, that every man who signed it would be signing in his own death warrant, should the colonies lose in the fight with Great Britain, which was sure to follow.
The document was drawn, and on June 28, the original draft was read before the Congress. For several days it was cussed, altered, and made ready. On July 4, 1776, Thomas Jefferson stood before the Assembly, and fearlessly read the most momentous decision ever placed upon paper.
"When in the course of human events it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the laws of nature and of nature's God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation. . ."
When Jefferson finished, the document was voted upon, accepted, and signed by the fifty-six men, every one staking his own life upon his decision to write his name. By that decision came into existence a nation destined to bring to mankind forever the privilege of making decisions. 
Analyze the events which led to the Declaration of Independence, and be convinced that this nation, which now holds a position of commanding respect and power among all nations of the world, was born of a decision created by a Master Mind consisting of fifty-six men. Note well the fact that it was their decision which insured the success of Washington's armies, because the spirit of that decision was in the heart of every soldier who fought with him, and served as a spiritual power which recognizes no such thing as failure.
Note also (with great personal benefit) that the power which gave this nation its freedom is the selfsame power that must be used by every individual who becomes self-determining. 

(From Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich") Please hit like and share if you learned something from this.